The Art of Toasting: Dos and Don’ts for Your Wedding Celebration

At New Leaf Farm, we believe that a well-crafted toast can truly elevate the spirit of any wedding celebration. However, navigating the fine line between a memorable toast and an awkward moment can be tricky. So, let’s raise our glasses and explore the dos and don’ts of giving a toast at a wedding, ensuring that every moment is filled with joy and celebration.

One of the most common questions we receive is, “who gives a toast?” Traditionally, a welcome toast is often delivered by a parent, grandparent, or other significant figure in the couple’s lives. Following the welcome toast, it’s common for the maid or matron of honor to offer her heartfelt words, followed by the best man. However, it’s essential to remember that this is your wedding day, and you have the freedom to choose whomever you wish to speak. Whether it’s a close friend, a sibling, or even both partners giving a joint toast, the most important thing is that the sentiments expressed come from the heart and contribute to the joyous atmosphere of the celebration.

Do Keep It Concise: A toast is not a speech; it’s a brief moment to express your heartfelt wishes for the newlyweds. Aim for a toast that lasts no more than 5 minutes, with the sweet spot being around 2.5 to 3 minutes. Remember, brevity is key to keeping the energy high and the attention of your audience captivated.

Don’t Forget Inclusivity: While inside jokes may bring a smile to the faces of the couple and a few select guests, they can leave others feeling left out. Avoid inside jokes unless you’re willing to provide context and ensure everyone feels included in the celebration. After all, there’s nothing more awkward than silence from the guests while the speaker giggles at the memory they just shared.

Do Keep It Heartfelt: Your toast is an opportunity to celebrate the love and joy shared by the newlyweds. While a touch of humor and lightheartedness is welcomed, avoid embarrassing stories or anecdotes that may cause discomfort. Instead, focus on heartfelt wishes, fond memories, and words of encouragement for the journey ahead.

Don’t Roast the Couple: While it may be tempting to share a funny mishap or embarrassing moment from the couple’s past, remember that this is a celebration, not a roast. Avoid any stories or jokes that could potentially embarrass the newlyweds or make them feel uncomfortable. Instead, choose to highlight their strengths, virtues, and the strengths in their relationship.

Do Practice and Prepare: Before stepping up to deliver your toast, take some time to practice and prepare. Rehearse your words, familiarize yourself with your notes, and ensure you’re comfortable with the flow of your toast. By taking the time to prepare, you’ll feel more confident and poised when it’s time to raise your glass. 

Don’t Forget to Raise Your Glass: A toast wouldn’t be complete without raising a glass to the newlyweds. As you conclude your heartfelt words, invite everyone to join you in toasting to the love and happiness of the couple. It’s a simple yet meaningful gesture that captures the essence of the celebration. Remember, whether you choose to print out your toast or memorize it, refrain from bringing your phone up with you.

Bonus: When should the couple give a thank you toast? Typically, we recommend doing this towards the tail end of dinner. It’s a perfect opportunity to express gratitude while everyone is gathered together and still in the celebratory mood. If you choose to follow this tradition, it’s customary for the couple to thank their parents for their love and support, express appreciation to the bridal party for their dedication and friendship, and extend heartfelt gratitude to all the guests for sharing in their special day. This thank you toast serves as a touching conclusion to the dinner festivities, leaving everyone feeling appreciated and cherished as the evening continues.

Giving a toast at a wedding is a cherished tradition that adds warmth and sincerity to the festivities. By following these dos and don’ts, you can ensure that your toast is a memorable and heartfelt moment that celebrates the love shared by the newlyweds. Cheers!